Moving On vs Changes

After a death who moves on? Or who accommodates the changes? Pat's Mom died on April 13. A month later his Dad is ordering meals for 2, I'm not sure of the timing but On Aug. 26th Pat's Dad took us out to dinner to tell us he is dating, Ginger a woman that Dad has known over 25 years. The past at least 3 years she drove a car around the Grand Canyon when Pat, his Dad and brother have hiked rim to rim. I know that Dad really had been alone for a lot of the time in the past years with Mom not feeling good.And I know that he's a grown man can decide when he is ready for a new life partner. Today was the first family party with Ginger there. I tried to be polite but it was so hard. My heart just felt so broken. And I had to divert my eyes from watching them. He had his hand draped on her knee. So there is familiarity enough to be comfortable touching her in front of all of us. If I was a betting person I would bet by the end of the year, 2012 they will be living together or getting married. I. do. not.like. changes.at.all. I'm going to need some serious therapy. And so will my girls.